Your 20s Kinda Suck–And That's Okay

This is for anyone in their 20s, but honestly, it applies to everyone.

I’m 25, and I’m here to tell you: your 20s suck. People say these are the best years of your life—full of fun, freedom, and new experiences. And sure, they are. But what no one tells you is that they’re also some of the hardest years you’ll ever go through.

For the first time, you’re fully responsible for your own decisions. You’re no longer living at home, no longer in college—there’s no one guiding you, no one telling you what to do. And the toughest part? The outcome of those decisions is entirely on you. No safety net, no one to fall back on. One day, you’re 19, and the next, you’re thrown into adulthood with no manual. It’s a massive transition, and no one prepares you for it.

I’ve gone through it, and honestly, I’m still figuring it out. There are days I don’t know what decision to make. There are times I wish I could call my mom and ask, What should I do? But at the end of the day, the answer has to come from me—because I’m the one in charge of my life.

And it can feel lonely. After college, everyone takes their own path. Your friends move, they start new jobs, new lives—and suddenly, you’re left comparing yourself to them. And with social media, that comparison becomes even worse. Everyone posts their best moments, their highlights—the vacations, promotions, relationships. No one posts their struggles. And yet, we sit there scrolling, feeling like we’re falling behind.

But here’s the truth: you are exactly where you need to be. The only person you should compare yourself to is who you were yesterday. That’s it.

People look at me and say, how did you get where you are? The answer? I failed. A lot. I’ve tried and failed so many times to get here. And that’s the part people don’t see. To reach any level of success, you have to fail—over and over again. Most people quit after two or three failed attempts. But statistically, only one out of seven projects succeeds. So don’t stop at seven. Do nine. Do ten. Keep going.

I don’t see failure as failure—I see it as a lesson. Every misstep is just one less wrong turn on the way to the right path. But if you sit there blaming life, saying it’s not fair, you’re only holding yourself back. I know this because I used to do it. I used to blame everything but myself. And the moment I stopped playing the victim and realized I was responsible for my life—my decisions, my consistency, my discipline—that’s when everything changed.

So, if you’re struggling in your 20s, know that you’re not alone. I still have bad days—every single week. But the key is learning to shift your mindset. Every time a negative thought creeps in, flip it into something positive. And I promise you, if you do that consistently, your life will change.